Wotever.

As you may have noticed I’ve taken a month off from writing, for no particular reason except I just needed a break. There are times when you don’t need a reason. 

 

A few years back I was asked to speak in Milan about Motivational Coaching. Confronted with 50 faces staring at me in anticipation, I could see the faces change when the translator spoke my last sentence" I haven’t been motivated for 6 weeks ". I might as well fessed up that I had sex with animals, such was the shock. I then explained that it’s unnatural to be motivated all the time, driven to succeed as if your life depended on it. When you work an Inspirational path, ambition is defunct. All in God’s time, as they say. Wotever.

 

Living your vision, living your dream, and focusing on your SUCCESS WHEEL that all the self help tomes suggest you roll out daily is exhausting to watch, let alone participate in. Marianne Williamson in her book A RETURN TO LOVE reminds us that " God’s plan works – yours doesn’t.  It’s good to have a plan but unhealthy when the plan becomes a route to over-achievement and end-game disappointment. An exercise I often refer to is to put a cross over an event or appointment in your diary over the next month that never materialised. This way you can see over the criss cross board, that life has a habit of not matching your intention and that focusing on the moment is more useful than focusing on the future. When we reach for the stars, we miss the ground we are standing on, the reality that holds us together in order to dream and be visionary in proportion. Over achievement is big with addicts of all kinds, from sports champions to gamblers, but so is procrastination and procrastination has a place too – whether it’s can’t be arsed, not bovvered or simply resting. Procrastination or lack of motivation is no big deal unless it goes on for too long, and like beauty, too long is in the eye of the beholder, depending on your personal pain or love level. FEAR is a great motivator and I suggest you avoid it.

 

Taking time out from plans and expectations is seen by some as failure of direction or laziness, when in fact life itself interrupts plans via illness, financial insecurity or other peoples demands until we get it. Everything is a learning laboratory. Remaining on vision with a project involves waiting time and this is all a spiritual route is. The inspiration comes from not opposing it. Learning to wait and not worry is a sign of maturity and masterhood of a spiritual path. Spirituality has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with TRUST. So it’s easy to live in the world of whatever happens once you have mastered this reasoning and that mastery comes from living in the moment, not living in the world of projection. Yes we need to do the footwork and plan with gusto but the moment we delete destination we really do reach for the sky.

 

The best deal you can give yourself is to live in the world of WOTEVER . . . whatever happens  . . . I will be fine. I will learn, grow and learn to trust more. The ego won’t like this route but the heart will love you more. Those involved in 12 Step rhetoric will see this as Steps 3 or 11, a willingness not to be in control . . . and remember . . Motivation comes from a feelings bank not a broadsheet and Intuition is the most portent drug to partake and deal in for peaceful longevity.