Comments on: The Elephant in the Room http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room Checking Out London Lifestyles, CODEPENDENCY & Urban Addictions Fri, 18 May 2012 11:24:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: theswarmite http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-40 theswarmite Mon, 16 Mar 2009 22:46:46 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-40 Hey thanx LaFang - I love that quote from Marianne Williamsons book A RETURN TO LOVE - " when people say - You're so Lucky! : Just remind them it's because you Practiced ". You're right it's the practice that holds the magic and the temporary turmoil. This too DID pass. Hey thanx LaFang –

I love that quote from Marianne Williamsons book
A RETURN TO LOVE – ” when people say – You’re so Lucky! : Just remind them it’s because you Practiced “. You’re right it’s the practice that holds the magic and the temporary turmoil. This too DID pass.

]]> By: Lafang http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-39 Lafang Mon, 16 Mar 2009 22:17:08 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-39 You have no idea how happy reading what you write & the resulting comments makes me feel. It's like being validated (not a hand stamp for free parking). So many times friends tell me 'it's not that simple' when I've said YOU make yourself happy, not your job, not your relationship, etc.... It IS that simple. It's the practicing part that's harder. But so worth it. Sending you hugs Madge & wishes for many smiles! You have no idea how happy reading what you write & the resulting comments makes me feel. It’s like being validated (not a hand stamp for free parking).
So many times friends tell me ‘it’s not that simple’ when I’ve said YOU make yourself happy, not your job, not your relationship, etc….
It IS that simple. It’s the practicing part that’s harder.
But so worth it.
Sending you hugs Madge & wishes for many smiles!

]]> By: theswarmite http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-38 theswarmite Mon, 16 Mar 2009 15:37:10 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-38 . . . watch those older squirrels on the Heath in muir caps John - they bite! If the world began to welcome change not fear it, half the problems would disappear overnight - just look at facebook right now! Get over it. . . . watch those older squirrels on the Heath in muir caps John – they bite!

If the world began to welcome change not fear it, half the problems would disappear overnight – just look at facebook right now! Get over it.

]]> By: John http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-37 John Mon, 16 Mar 2009 14:12:00 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-37 Thought provoking blog as usual David...many thx. Breaking free from the shackles of ego which dictate that it's always other people who are responsible for our problems & accepting responsibility is the first step toward a happier existence. Sometimes it can take surviving a life threatening situation to put things sharply into focus - we are the fortunate ones. So many people are caught up in basic day to day survival & repeated patterns of behaviour that they fail to realise that the answer to their myriad problems is in their own hands. I guess it's fear that stops 'em changing their situation so they put up with shit jobs & unhappy relationships cos the prospect of change is so terrifying. 2 weeks in Benidorm will never be a panacea for much deeper problems. I'm off to commune with the squirrels on Hampstead Heath & enjoy the beautiful Spring sunshine ;-) Love ya! ~ J Thought provoking blog as usual David…many thx.

Breaking free from the shackles of ego which dictate that it’s always other people who are responsible for our problems & accepting responsibility is the first step toward a happier existence.
Sometimes it can take surviving a life threatening situation to put things sharply into focus – we are the fortunate ones.

So many people are caught up in basic day to day survival & repeated patterns of behaviour that they fail to realise that the answer to their myriad problems is in their own hands.

I guess it’s fear that stops ‘em changing their situation so they put up with shit jobs & unhappy relationships cos the prospect of change is so terrifying. 2 weeks in Benidorm will never be a panacea for much deeper problems.

I’m off to commune with the squirrels on Hampstead Heath & enjoy the beautiful Spring sunshine ;-)

Love ya!
~ J

]]> By: theswarmite http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-36 theswarmite Mon, 16 Mar 2009 11:36:56 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-36 Thanx Droid - I will work on bringing Swarmite Breathwork to Innsbruck this year - and make sure I don't " do a runner ". LOL Your contribution above, is as always SPOT ON. Thanx Droid – I will work on bringing Swarmite Breathwork to Innsbruck this year – and make sure I don’t ” do a runner “. LOL
Your contribution above, is as always SPOT ON.

]]> By: Keither http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-35 Keither Mon, 16 Mar 2009 11:24:02 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-35 sorry think the quote was "Ive been to paradise but Ive never been to me" agreed on the towel mountain...perhaps the red nose day climbers could have halved the carbon footprint of getting to Tanzania for Kilimanjaro and got a sleazy jet flight to Iceland instead? sorry think the quote was “Ive been to paradise but Ive never been to me” agreed on the towel mountain…perhaps the red nose day climbers could have halved the carbon footprint of getting to Tanzania for Kilimanjaro and got a sleazy jet flight to Iceland instead?

]]> By: Droid http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-34 Droid Mon, 16 Mar 2009 11:19:21 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-34 Awesome as always and something I have understood for many years. Doing a runner is never an option, like our shadows, the ego follows wherever we venture. A troubled person at work is a troubled person by the pool. The going away idea is really something you touched on in another blog, a delay tactic and the misunderstanding that something will change due to a different location. Why not start the work now so when we do hit the haven of tranquility, we can at least enjoy it. If not, the return usually brings us back to the harsh realization that our geographical did not work, escalating the feeling of discontent. Why spend our whole time living in an imagined future that on our next trip we will be happy, even just for a few weeks? Let's make the choice now, free our 'now' and live in the moment and be grateful for what we have. Realizing we have a choice and the opportunity for growth, no matter how painful, is a gift, not a punishment. If we throw half as much enthusiasm into becoming happier more balanced people as we do our work our trips away will become our paradise rather than a short respite from our daily dysfunctional lives, which we will inevitably return too. Awesome as always and something I have understood for many years. Doing a runner is never an option, like our shadows, the ego follows wherever we venture. A troubled person at work is a troubled person by the pool. The going away idea is really something you touched on in another blog, a delay tactic and the misunderstanding that something will change due to a different location. Why not start the work now so when we do hit the haven of tranquility, we can at least enjoy it. If not, the return usually brings us back to the harsh realization that our geographical did not work, escalating the feeling of discontent. Why spend our whole time living in an imagined future that on our next trip we will be happy, even just for a few weeks? Let’s make the choice now, free our ‘now’ and live in the moment and be grateful for what we have. Realizing we have a choice and the opportunity for growth, no matter how painful, is a gift, not a punishment. If we throw half as much enthusiasm into becoming happier more balanced people as we do our work our trips away will become our paradise rather than a short respite from our daily dysfunctional lives, which we will inevitably return too.

]]> By: theswarmite http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-33 theswarmite Mon, 16 Mar 2009 09:50:19 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-33 The wonder of LENOR Keith. That's why Spa's are expensive - wear it once then they chuck it. They KNOW we cant do it at home. Somewhere there is a towel mountain the size of Iceland. Love the ADFAB quote ( and I have been to Marrakech 6 times ) - and hold Berber in my heart Sweetie . . The wonder of LENOR Keith. That’s why Spa’s are expensive – wear it once then they chuck it. They KNOW we cant do it at home. Somewhere there is a towel mountain the size of Iceland.

Love the ADFAB quote ( and I have been to Marrakech 6 times ) – and hold Berber in my heart Sweetie . .

]]> By: Keither http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-32 Keither Mon, 16 Mar 2009 09:34:19 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-32 Another thought provoking and relevant piece of writing, I hate spa retreats because you never CAN get your towels at home as soft...annoys me. What was that saying...."I've been to Marakech but I've never been to me" saw it on AbFab but sure it has deeper historic roots somewhere. Another thought provoking and relevant piece of writing, I hate spa retreats because you never CAN get your towels at home as soft…annoys me.

What was that saying….”I’ve been to Marakech but I’ve never been to me” saw it on AbFab but sure it has deeper historic roots somewhere.

]]> By: theswarmite http://www.theswarmite.com/the-elephant-in-the-room/comment-page-1#comment-31 theswarmite Mon, 16 Mar 2009 00:23:57 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=592#comment-31 LOL @ Clay - inciteful . . . freudian slip or wot? Did you mean SPITEFUL . . .sister? Is it Joan & Bette? Blog sisters. LOL @ Clay – inciteful . . . freudian slip or wot?

Did you mean SPITEFUL . . .sister? Is it Joan & Bette?
Blog sisters.

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