Comments on: Please release me

By: Pieter Gildenhuys

Pieter Gildenhuys — Tue, 25 May 2010 22:50:34 +0000

Excellent writing from theswarmite yet again! Thanks so much

By: theswarmite

theswarmite — Tue, 19 May 2009 12:26:51 +0000

LOL Swedish chef ( about the gay gene pool ) . . .on a more serious note your explanation around shame in childhood is spot on and something I had not considered in quite this way, but now seems obvious. Thanx for your input.

By: Swedish chef

Swedish chef — Tue, 19 May 2009 11:31:36 +0000

Did you know that most of the time shame comes from not being noticed enough in early childhood, or not noticed as who you think you are (rather than who your parents or people in your environment think/thought you are). Our immediate reaction as children is that when we are not noticed it is because it must be something wrong with us. As soon as we have this reaction we start to search for reasons – in an attempt to work out what is wrong with us. A process that often leads to co-dependency and a lot of other ‘not-good-enough-problems’ as adults.
In your case though, I am both surprised and confused – I thought being gay came with the gene-pool and not from witnessing condomes being washed. Anyway, keep up the good work.

By: Lafang

Lafang — Thu, 14 May 2009 12:36:43 +0000

*making note to smile more often*
Conditioning… something that happens during our growing up & something we continue to impose on ourselves without half realizing. Another tool we use to dig ourselves a rut to stay in.