Comments on: Lack of Boundaries

By: theswarmite

theswarmite — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 12:30:34 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing this recovery story Jackie – I am sure many will take courage into their own lives from it. We do indeed recover when we stand back and let god do for us which we cannot do for ourselves. This then offers us more time to fix ourselves instead of others. x

By: Jackie

Jackie — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 10:04:31 +0000

Hi, many thanks for the codependency blog.Thanks also for the links which I found really helpful. My need to ‘fix’ things in my family (I am a recovering addict, my two eldest do not yet work a program), has to come from a place of love and forgiveness, rather than fear – most particularly for myself.
As my daughter leaves my home tomorrow, ( she has been out of jail on a tag for a few weeks) I will miss her, and my eldest son comes to fetch her, I am sad and grateful that we have a gift of desperation with her behaviour, since I realise my powerlessness over her (and my son), I am grateful for the time clean we have been able to spend together especially, this has never happened before in either of our lives. Now I have to let go and trust. Keep the focus on me. My attitudes, my own ability to detach with love, from my own inner conflicts and those of my family members.
In Al-anon, we say; we did not cause it; we cant control it; we cannot cure it.
Just for today:- I try a little, Trust a little and get out of God’s way much love & gratitude, We do recover x

By: theswarmite

theswarmite — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 23:38:28 +0000

Geoffrey . . the BACK of the queue please . . it’s a long one. LOL.

By: theswarmite

theswarmite — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 23:37:25 +0000

Thanks Lonestar for this feedback – my experience has shown that what we most need is staring at us, the skill is opening eyes. That said it’s good to hear that you have taken direction from my words, for me it is just a discipline of writing twice a week which I enjoy.

By: Lonestar

Lonestar — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 23:15:44 +0000

I’ve followed your blog for sometime now and every so often when I’m most in need of direction I find something which shows me the way. Thank you

By: Geoffrey

Geoffrey — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 10:53:00 +0000

Please, show me where the queue is, I belong here…