10 Feb 2010
When, oh when, will I be famous . . .
Yes, there really is a site called http://www.iwannabefamous.com/ so I trawled through some of the comments to detect the hearts and minds of those who are unhappy with being sidelined by paps. The site mission statement stated : "Being famous is not so bad after all. Sometimes fame and brings fortune (sic), but other times it brings headaches. Once you are famous you will need an agent, a photographer, a bodyguard, an accountant, a therapist, a lawyer, and perhaps a good plastic surgeon". So there you have it, and you don’t even have to read HEAT magazine.
The site gives the opportunity for an un-famous ordinary person to spout why they have a need to reach CELEBRITY status. This will amuse or create rage at the society we have created. Here it is unedited.
" I wanna be famous because i wanna change the world. i want to be that role model to people of all ages. most celebrities these days are caught up so much in the money and divorces and lawsuits. i want to do the opposite with my fame, bring a positive approach to it. donate my richs to charities, i love signing autographs and taking pictures. i have an outgoing personality and God has aloud me to already meet so many people but im not satsfied yet i want to do something big with the crazy outgoing personality hes blessed me with. i’m unique, funny, caring, and outgoing. i dont want to be like all these celebrities who get caught up in the fame and money. i relate to all sorts of people..i’m just waiting for a break to hit big. id love to have my own tv show or talk show ".
Maybe I’m picky but having read this diatribe of ambition they may need to add grammar and spelling coach to the list of lawyers and therapists required to survive the day. No wonder Blair famously blared out " Education, Education, Education ".
Thinking that FAME will create happiness and freedom is foolhardy, but the likes of X Factor drivel only stoke the fire of illusion in the hearts of the young. One comment on the above story said " I wanna be famous because, i want people to know who i am, and what i am good at. I love acting and modeling. I don’t have much experience, but i’m passionate about acting, so i consider myself as a great actress! I would love to have the opportunity …
In reality many people and those who seek fame at any cost, lack self-confidence, self-esteem and a sense of security. This quest for fame is based on a fear of being ignored, passed over and overlooked. Think Jordan/Katie Price/Andre/Reid. They want that people should give them importance and show them respect and devotion when in a lot of cases they can’t give it freely to themselves, so they demand it from us. This is a coda problem of seeking approval outside of themselves, seeing their audience as authorititive parental energy. The root cause for this might be, that in childhood, they might have been deprived of love and care that a child needs, so they " played up " in order to be loved. In my own case I was a best behaviour codependent, seeking approval through my drawings. Every time someone visited the house my drawings had to be looked at, creating a need as an adult for approval over what I produced rather than who I was. Workaholicism then became my purpose.
FAME is just reward for hard work and determination but this drive for fame for fame’s sake is as hollow as a chocolate egg. I don’t need fame to know who I am, or how I feel. I don’t seek the approval of others in order to feel good, worthy or sane all I need is an affirmation I created for myself in 1988 : I am my own fabulous Celebrity.
Yes it’s true, even if it’s only me that thinks so. No paps please.
I created this truth after reading a fab book by Sondra Ray called : How to be Chic, Fabulous & Live For Ever.
Don’t steal mine – now it’s your turn to create your own affirmative statement, otherwise I shall get the lawyers in.
