Comments on: Family Secrets & Cover-Ups

By: droid

droid — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 23:45:20 +0000

Over here in Austria the family secrets are kept in the cellar…
Great blog again. I know most of my family history as I communicate well with my Mum. She was from a generation who just knuckled down, usually against all odds, and got on with supporting us kids, without any help from a dad who buggered off when I was about 4. Forgiveness is the key to letting go the past and living in the present. I found the part about your dad working while you were on holiday especially touching, selfless service one might say.

Speak soon…

By: Lafang

Lafang — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 22:07:19 +0000

You are so very welcome! I’m obviously enjoying ‘this’ and getting quite a lot out of your writing. Wishing you all the best with this and everything!

By: theswarmite

theswarmite — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 22:05:09 +0000

This is why I am sharing so openly LaFang – one, I am totally shameless about my past and present and two, to assist others in the demolition of shame.
Thanx for your input on the birth of my blog.

By: Lafang

Lafang — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 21:47:42 +0000

You’re right. You couldn’t make this up.
I’m so glad you’re sharing this journey of self-discovery.

It’s sad that growing up around addictions and abuse are so common, and yet still considered somewhat shameful. Alcoholism was my family ‘secret’ (only it was very visible if you actually looked). I refused to be ashamed by that past once out of my teens, and then refused to keep it secret. Much to the chagrin of my family. I found once you do that, it melts much of it’s ‘bogeyman’ qualities away.

Thank you for this blog, Madge!

By: theswarmite

theswarmite — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 18:20:26 +0000

. . . the truth always breeds new journeys Steve ( as we well know ). Thanx for your support around me telling it like it is. Madge.

By: Steve Blower

Steve Blower — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 17:15:23 +0000

Madge; you have done it again.

Strong enough to ask the questions, strong enough to listen to the answsers, and now strong enough to share.

Thank you.

A few years ago, my sister Jenny called me one Saturday afternoon. She said to me:

First, sit down.

Second, you know that you are the first of five kids in our family?

Well, actually, you are the second of six.

And a new adventure started…………

Love, Steve.

By: theswarmite

theswarmite — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 13:55:42 +0000

. . . this is very much what I had to do Sophie in order to find solice and perspective. If everyone started the family tree process around dysfunction not just the impact of alcohol abuse, lives would be more productive. Welcome to my new blog Sophie & do as Bill W suggested – pass it on for others to subscribe.

By: sophie

sophie — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 13:11:02 +0000

Thanks for your last two blogs, I’ve really enjoyed them, my experience so far is I’ve learnt more about my father especially, in my time in recovery, than ever before in my life, we’re currrently putting together a family tree, and have gone back almost 3 generations discovering alcoholism and more.