Comments on: Chaos Living: It’s pants. http://www.theswarmite.com/booze-unmanageable-living-procrastination-codependency Checking Out London Lifestyles, CODEPENDENCY & Urban Addictions Fri, 18 May 2012 11:24:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: theswarmite http://www.theswarmite.com/booze-unmanageable-living-procrastination-codependency/comment-page-1#comment-184 theswarmite Tue, 21 Jul 2009 20:09:56 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=3450#comment-184 Thanx Lafang for reminding me that everyone is capable and worthy of change. The problem is I think that many try to do it alone and stumble at the first furlong and give up. That's why gyms are full of Personal Trainers. Thanx Lafang for reminding me that everyone is capable and worthy of change. The problem is I think that many try to do it alone and stumble at the first furlong and give up. That’s why gyms are full of Personal Trainers.

]]> By: Lafang http://www.theswarmite.com/booze-unmanageable-living-procrastination-codependency/comment-page-1#comment-183 Lafang Tue, 21 Jul 2009 02:18:45 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=3450#comment-183 Very timely writing. Addictions take many forms. Realizing what behaviours are addictions/distractions from working on oneself is a start. To move from there and break those cycles is harder, but we are all 'worth it'. Very timely writing.
Addictions take many forms.
Realizing what behaviours are addictions/distractions from working on oneself is a start. To move from there and break those cycles is harder, but we are all ‘worth it’.

]]> By: theswarmite http://www.theswarmite.com/booze-unmanageable-living-procrastination-codependency/comment-page-1#comment-180 theswarmite Mon, 20 Jul 2009 09:47:37 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=3450#comment-180 " To say that even if your life is a mess now, it didn’t start like that. And that there is a way back. " Thank for this thought Swedish Chef - yes alcoholics on park benches didn't start there, it's where they ended up and I have seen many turn around their lives. Feral kids on sink estates were once little babies but dysfunction occurred along the way. Chaos living is used by many people as a motivator so it works, but then I used drugs as a motivator too until the chaos was so great I could not walk my way out of it, only crawl. Then I had to be carried. Now I have the experience of saner thinking and living - the old way holds no allure. ” To say that even if your life is a mess now, it didn’t start like that. And that there is a way back. ”

Thank for this thought Swedish Chef – yes alcoholics on park benches didn’t start there, it’s where they ended up and I have seen many turn around their lives. Feral kids on sink estates were once little babies but dysfunction occurred along the way. Chaos living is used by many people as a motivator so it works, but then I used drugs as a motivator too until the chaos was so great I could not walk my way out of it, only crawl. Then I had to be carried. Now I have the experience of saner thinking and living – the old way holds no allure.

]]> By: Swedish chef http://www.theswarmite.com/booze-unmanageable-living-procrastination-codependency/comment-page-1#comment-179 Swedish chef Mon, 20 Jul 2009 09:32:53 +0000 http://www.theswarmite.com/?p=3450#comment-179 I used to believe that advice to get rid of 'unwanted behaviour' was exactly that. That it had to focus on the fact the 'problem behaviour' really was something bad that needed to be fixed. And don't get me wrong, I still agree with that. But learning more about human behaviour I have also come to see that the really interesting part in changing behaviour is to dig deep enough to get to its positive origin. And yes, I do believe that even very bad behaviour has its origin in a positive thought. Not always on a direct level, but that all forms of behaviour are attempts to satisfy our basic needs (of being seen, heard and accepted by the group atc). So even if the end result is self-destructive addiction, it has a positive root. Not that it usually changes the things you need to do to change to a more positive and self-afferming lifestyle. But just as a little cheering up in the struggle to change a pattern that has taken a lifetime to create. To say that even if your life is a mess now, it didn't start like that. And that there is a way back. Anyway, that's just me. Keep up the good work. I used to believe that advice to get rid of ‘unwanted behaviour’ was exactly that. That it had to focus on the fact the ‘problem behaviour’ really was something bad that needed to be fixed. And don’t get me wrong, I still agree with that. But learning more about human behaviour I have also come to see that the really interesting part in changing behaviour is to dig deep enough to get to its positive origin.
And yes, I do believe that even very bad behaviour has its origin in a positive thought. Not always on a direct level, but that all forms of behaviour are attempts to satisfy our basic needs (of being seen, heard and accepted by the group atc). So even if the end result is self-destructive addiction, it has a positive root. Not that it usually changes the things you need to do to change to a more positive and self-afferming lifestyle. But just as a little cheering up in the struggle to change a pattern that has taken a lifetime to create. To say that even if your life is a mess now, it didn’t start like that. And that there is a way back.
Anyway, that’s just me. Keep up the good work.

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